Tuesday, February 3, 2009

Thanks, but no thanks

I have decided the milestone I am most looking forward to with these children is not going off to school or getting braces or driving a car. It's the ability to write their own thank-you notes.

I swore after we got married and had an engagement party, three showers and a wedding with a 475-person guest list that I would never write another thank-you note as long as I lived. Because Josh never wrote ONE. I wrote all of them. Myself. His excuse before the wedding: I had better handwriting than him. His excuse later was that he was working on the wedding website so I had to do the thank-yous.

But then we had babies. And lots of people send you gifts for that. Which is awesome. But I had to write them all again, by myself, because SOMEONE said I was the one on maternity leave with Jack and not working outside the home with Emmie and had all this time to get it done. Clearly he never tried to write with a small person latched on your boob for hours on end.

Now the kids have the birthday parties where they get lots of gifts and guess who's writing the thank-you notes again? That would be the stay-at-home mom. You know, the one with all the time on her hands.

Tonight when I dug Emmie's stationary out to send her birthday notes, only two weeks after her party, I found three thank-you notes in my bag that were from gifts she was given when she was born. Oh yes, shitty mom that I am, I wrote the notes but put them in my bag and never sent them. So those are going in the mail a year later. Better late than never, I suppose.

Next year, I might just give them both a pen and paper and let them scribble something and send them out like that. I will still have to address them, but at least I won't have to come up with the text.

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Blogger SupaCoo said...

My sister perched her youngest in a swing with a hand-made sign that said "Thanks!" She then printed out copious amounts of these pics and sent those at thank-yous. Not a single hand injured in the process and they were the CUTEST damn things ever.

February 4, 2009 3:56 AM  
Blogger tutugirl1345 said...

Be careful what you wish for...

I remember thank you notes being a HUGE fight every time with my parents. You may get to that point and wish that you could go back to writing them yourself ;).

February 4, 2009 6:22 AM  
Blogger Busted said...

HA! Ever since I got engaged to MG I've had the same nightmare. I had the engagement party, 3 bridal showers, the wedding, 2 baby showers (for 1 baby), the Baptism, the million of gifts that our incredibly large families sent plus Christmas. For the last 2 years I've done nothing but write thank you cards on a weekly basis. Luckily MG has helped me out with alot of them.

February 4, 2009 9:05 AM  
Blogger Monica said...

Oh gosh, the dreaded thing you gotta do because it's polite. On the bright side, you apparantly have lots of people that love you and your kiddos. You could just take pics of Emma playing with the toy or wearing the clothes and send it as a postcard or something.

February 4, 2009 9:55 AM  
Blogger Sarah said...

That WILL be a good milestone! Although, I actually LIKE writing TYs, which might make me a big weirdo, now that I think about it.

February 4, 2009 9:56 AM  
Blogger Orah said...

i HATE writing thank yous, but am crazy about doing them - my mom drilled this one into me!!
starting at age 3 ive had the boys "write" their own- be it a scribbling on a paper, a drawing of the gift, or whatever. now that benjamin is five, he most recently wrote (for chanukah gifts) "thank you from benjamin" and did that for the billion gifts he got. we're trying to drive home how lucky he is to get gifts, so thank yous are a must in this house.

February 4, 2009 12:55 PM  
Blogger snarflemarfle said...

Yep...some scribbles on a piece of cardstock in an envelope and you've got a great thank you note! I am one of the weird ones that likes writing thank you notes (but I like making them also!). In fact, I need to start making a few since I'm about to have a one year old and a three year old!

February 4, 2009 9:45 PM  

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