Advice needed please
A parenting dilemma: Jack started crying/screaming that he had to poop on the potty right as I was putting him to bed tonight. He was so insistent that I let him go to the bathroom.
We then sat there for over an hour while he tried, unsuccessfully, to get the job done. I feel like he was being sincere, but maybe couldn't do it for some reason. He's never pooped on the potty, despite being totally out of diapers during the day since July 4.
Josh got home at 9:15 p.m. and said he wouldn't have let it go longer than 10 minutes. I told him he could have a go at it then, if he was so smart. He gave him to the count of five, picked him up and put him to bed. Where he became lunatic-hysterical until I gave him one more chance, then put him back to bed myself. Within two minutes, he was asleep.
So, have we just set him back in the quest for full potty training? Or was it all a ploy to delay his bedtime?
We then sat there for over an hour while he tried, unsuccessfully, to get the job done. I feel like he was being sincere, but maybe couldn't do it for some reason. He's never pooped on the potty, despite being totally out of diapers during the day since July 4.
Josh got home at 9:15 p.m. and said he wouldn't have let it go longer than 10 minutes. I told him he could have a go at it then, if he was so smart. He gave him to the count of five, picked him up and put him to bed. Where he became lunatic-hysterical until I gave him one more chance, then put him back to bed myself. Within two minutes, he was asleep.
So, have we just set him back in the quest for full potty training? Or was it all a ploy to delay his bedtime?
Labels: Jack, Parenting, Potty Training
posted by Amy at
9:38 PM
7 Comments:
I'm in no way an expert but when my (at the time) 2.5 year old son was learning to use the potty he became a pro at the bedtime poop game. Every. Single. Night. Sometimes he would go, most times he would not.
After a week or so, we grew tired of the game and stall. We gave him 10 minutes to try and then it was over. We even set the timer. It was ugly the first couple nights but after that - he got used to it and eventually it stopped.
Hard to know what your guy is up to but if it continues for another night or two - I'd say he is using it to stall because what parent is going to argue with a child who says they have to poop? :) They quickly learn that using "potty needs" is very powerful and can make you stop dead in your tracks anywhere.
Good luck! I'll be eager to read how it's going.
You have not put Jack bakward in the poop training. He probably was just trying his best and really did not know what to expect. Remember to keep the prizes close and that I told him even Santa poops on the potty:)
Aww, little Jack. Pooping on the potty will come, it really will. He didn't get the job done within an hour, so he probably was stalling, unless he was super constipated. You're not the only one who has gone through bedtime stalling. Ethan used to always ask for drinks, or a toy or whatever he could think of.
Perhaps sit him on the potty about 30 minutes after dinner and tell him it's time to go. This may create a routine and put his colon on a clock.
When I was little, I would go behind a couch to do my business (in a diaper). The pediatrician told my mother that kids feel like they're losing a part of themselves and it kinda freaks them out. I was eventually potty-trained with M&Ms. by my grandmother. in one day. So if all else fails, try chocolate (although this may only work on girls).
Yeah...bedtime delay. My girl pulls it every night almost. She can and does go in the potty, but she refuses to go close to bedtime. Instead, she tinkles and / or poops in her pull-up minutes after we put her in bed. We are forced to turn on the lights and put her in a clean one. These kids are very clever (the code for demon spawn) ;)
My daughter went through a phase where she tried the poop ploy on for size. I just left her in the bathroom by herself - it was the attention/togetherness she was after - and she would trot off to bed. She only did it for a little while the gave up because she wasn't getting what she wanted out of it.
I am not a perfect mommy... let me say that right off the bat!
I am working on the poop/potty thing with my 3 year old boy. We bought one of those little training potties... we put it in the tv room, turn on his favorite show (Diego), and within a 20 min episode... Done!
Then when he says he has to go at bedtime, because they all pull that one, I don't have to believe him because I know he's already done it.
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